Respect yourself and others will respect you.-Confucius” This is a very good statement. It emphasizes the importance of the so called respect to an individual’s life. Respect starts with respect for self. A person who respects themselves is confident and has a positive attitude. When you feel good about yourself, it will in turn affect the way you treat other people. The above statement of Confucius means that when we learn to respect ourselves truly we will not do anything that shall embarrass and put us to shame. This ensures us that we will do good to ourselves and to others. We have to carry ourselves with respect so that others will respect us. Speaking of respect, it is simply about valuing or loving ourselves of who really we are. And having respect means, we treat ourselves, others, and even our environment with kindness and consideration. This means, we take good care of ourselves, and being aware of how our actions affect others. If we do not respect ourselves and others, no one will respect us. If we do not treat others like what we want to be treated, they will not treat us well. When we refuse to let others disrespect us that is a positive proof that we respect ourselves. We are only treated how we allow others to treat us.
Respect yourself. Respect for yourself. Respect for others. Respect is really a powerful tool. It is very important first that we must show respect to ourselves. We have to love and give value to ourselves. In the very first place, we cannot respect others if we cannot respect ourselves. Self-respect is not about what we do, but who we are. It is about feeling valued. It is about loving ourselves for ourselves. Respect for ourselves shows in how we walk, act, talk and react. Everybody knows respect when they see it because someone always is watching us. If we expect to be respected, we must give respect, and of course giving respect demands respect. When we have self-respect, we actually fully love ourselves. We love ourselves for who we are in the inside and not just because of what we do, what we look like, or what we are capable of. We are very proud of ourselves, if we respect ourselves our own selves. Self-respect is the foundation on which many other good values are developed such as honesty, confidence, sensitivity, and integrity. It begins with learning what we really want, need, feel and think. It is all self-mindfulness. There will be no hatred, anger, greed, jealousy, and many more bad attitudes that may ruin human relationships. Without self-respect, it is really difficult to have honesty, confidence and integrity. And if we don not have self-respect, there will be an emotions of anger, guilt, blame, shame or regret and of course we may feel that we are unworthy. Thus, it is very important for us to have self-respect, because the feeling of being respected is so great. And in order for us to develop and build self-respect, we have to evaluate, analyze and reflect upon these some of the important questions; do I respect my values?, my opinions?, my self-care?, my actions?, my intentions?, or my motivations?. These are some of the questions that we have to think of.
In connection to our seminary formation, it is really very necessary that we have to build and develop a community with respect. This is a very good weapon and tool in order for us to stop the chaos, conflicts, hatreds, anger, insensitivity, bullying that badly exist in the community. I do believe, one of the reasons why there is no development and imbalance in the community because of our lack of self-respect. We are not appreciative of our own capacities and uniqueness. We lack of self-esteem and self-confidence. We hurt each other’s feeling. We are becoming insensitive. There is no sense of propriety. We are becoming disobedient and ill-disciplined to our priest formators. We do not value and love one another. We do not respect each other. We tend to forget even to give respect or reverence to the Blessed Sacrament in the altar. All of these problems are caused by lack of self-respect. Beyond that, if we cannot respect ourselves, how can we respect others and how can others respect us? Thus, it is a great call and invitation to all of us that we have to live a life with respect in this community. We have to respect ourselves, our brother seminarians, our personnel, our teachers and priest formatores as well. We have to build and maintain an atmosphere of valuing, caring and loving with one another. We have to show and feel to one another that we are valued, respected and worthy in the community. It is really a great feeling of being respected.
Respect yourself. Respect for yourself. Respect for others. Respect is really a powerful tool. It is very important first that we must show respect to ourselves. We have to love and give value to ourselves. In the very first place, we cannot respect others if we cannot respect ourselves. Self-respect is not about what we do, but who we are. It is about feeling valued. It is about loving ourselves for ourselves. Respect for ourselves shows in how we walk, act, talk and react. Everybody knows respect when they see it because someone always is watching us. If we expect to be respected, we must give respect, and of course giving respect demands respect. When we have self-respect, we actually fully love ourselves. We love ourselves for who we are in the inside and not just because of what we do, what we look like, or what we are capable of. We are very proud of ourselves, if we respect ourselves our own selves. Self-respect is the foundation on which many other good values are developed such as honesty, confidence, sensitivity, and integrity. It begins with learning what we really want, need, feel and think. It is all self-mindfulness. There will be no hatred, anger, greed, jealousy, and many more bad attitudes that may ruin human relationships. Without self-respect, it is really difficult to have honesty, confidence and integrity. And if we don not have self-respect, there will be an emotions of anger, guilt, blame, shame or regret and of course we may feel that we are unworthy. Thus, it is very important for us to have self-respect, because the feeling of being respected is so great. And in order for us to develop and build self-respect, we have to evaluate, analyze and reflect upon these some of the important questions; do I respect my values?, my opinions?, my self-care?, my actions?, my intentions?, or my motivations?. These are some of the questions that we have to think of.
In connection to our seminary formation, it is really very necessary that we have to build and develop a community with respect. This is a very good weapon and tool in order for us to stop the chaos, conflicts, hatreds, anger, insensitivity, bullying that badly exist in the community. I do believe, one of the reasons why there is no development and imbalance in the community because of our lack of self-respect. We are not appreciative of our own capacities and uniqueness. We lack of self-esteem and self-confidence. We hurt each other’s feeling. We are becoming insensitive. There is no sense of propriety. We are becoming disobedient and ill-disciplined to our priest formators. We do not value and love one another. We do not respect each other. We tend to forget even to give respect or reverence to the Blessed Sacrament in the altar. All of these problems are caused by lack of self-respect. Beyond that, if we cannot respect ourselves, how can we respect others and how can others respect us? Thus, it is a great call and invitation to all of us that we have to live a life with respect in this community. We have to respect ourselves, our brother seminarians, our personnel, our teachers and priest formatores as well. We have to build and maintain an atmosphere of valuing, caring and loving with one another. We have to show and feel to one another that we are valued, respected and worthy in the community. It is really a great feeling of being respected.
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